When I was working at the market research call center, there were a number of older coworkers who can best be described as “characters.” That is to say, they were somewhat eccentric and occasionally kind of off-putting. (This is not to say I was not also eccentric and off-putting. Because I can be.) There was one co-worker in particular who managed to get onto my radar (or I ended up on hers) when she decided to verbally attack another co-worker for using the word “guy” as a gender neutral term. I will call her Ms. Bottom. Continue reading
Does “they meant well” actually excuse an action that has the end result of harming the individual the action was supposedly meant to help?
No, seriously. Does it? Are they magic words that make everything better?
Is the person who’s been wronged because of that action obligated to pretend that they are not angry? That they are not hurt? That they have not been offended?
Does it immediately take away responsibility for the action that was in fact harmful? Continue reading
So, I have a complete and overwhelming lack of a desire to date. This lack of interest has been with me since I was the age most people start thinking about dating. (My teen years were particularly worrisome to my parents. I played Dungeons and Dragons, cared very little for my physical appearance and had absolutely no interest in boys. This apparently meant that I was a lesbian.) This is not to say however, that I never dated. I have dated and had even been in a few relationships. They all ended badly for either myself or the guy I was seeing. Continue reading
Okay, this happened a very long time ago, and I am not even one of the people central to the tale. I only heard both sides of the story from the people involved who had no clear idea that I knew both of them. (And it actually took me a while to realize, “hey, small world, these two women are talking about each other!” While the stories were very similar, the spin was different enough that it was actually hard to make a connection between woman A and Woman B.) Continue reading